Horrible Spouse Forever or Single Forever?

[Snowman]

Q: Would you rather have a horrible spouse you can't divorce, or be single for the rest of your life?

Explain.

[Snowman]

I would choose being single forever. I don't mind being alone. I have a feeling I am in the minority however.

[BongoGigilo]

Originally Posted by Snowman I would choose being single forever. I don't mind being alone. I have a feeling I am in the minority however.

Snow, If you are then I am too, I like being single. The other alternative doesn't sound very pleasant.

[Snowman]

I observe so many people who stay in really bad relationships, I can only conclude people are truly afraid of being alone.

[AussieWill]

Originally Posted by Snowman I observe so many people who stay in really bad relationships, I can only conclude people are truly afraid of being alone.

No one wants to be alone, friends are nice and family are ok, but having a permanent partner is best. Of course getting in early and having kids helps here, takes the pressure off all that having a family BS. I pitty anyone over 40 who doesnt have children yet IMO. Be single, or become a serial monogamist...or get a partner who likes to swing. I'm rambling now..

Can you have a suplimentry question Snowman?

C. Unwedded but has more than one partner.

[Snowman]

Originally Posted by AussieWill Can you have a suplimentry question Snowman? C. Unwedded but has more than one partner.

No, we can't have that option because it removes the "cost" of not staying with the crummy spouse. The whole crux of the question is, if you don't stay with the bad match, you never get another partner.

[HypoLuxa-HermesPan]

Originally Posted by AussieWill I pitty anyone over 40 who doesnt have children yet IMO.

Jeeez! And I pity people who shouldn't have ever been parents in the first place having kids because of external pressures. I've seen it too. The parents are miserable and the kids turn out screwed up.

Some people aren't meant to be, or really shouldn't be parents.

[AussieWill]

Originally Posted by HypoLuxa-HermesPan Jeeez! And I pity people who shouldn't have ever been parents in the first place having kids because of external pressures. I've seen it too. The parents are miserable and the kids turn out screwed up. Some people aren't meant to be, or really shouldn't be parents.

Very true! So many people just shoudnt go down that path. Its easy to get pregnant, but thats just the begining of nearly a 2 decade committment. Best count the cost and get used to the idea BEFORE ... if the couple are of one mind and not pressured into it then its the most satisfying thing you can do in your life.

[codeSmith]

Since I am just coming out of an oppressive relationship.. I can chime in here..

I'd say stay single forever..

There is no way anyone could last long and function as an individual in a bad relationship.. sooner or later the bad blood seeps into every aspect of your life until you have nothing left to hold your sanity.

[yoda57us]

I think fear of being alone and the cost and emotional pain of a divorce play heavily into the longevity of so many bad relationships. I am separated from my ex for about 18 months now. I have no immediate plans for initiating divorce proceedings and I also plan on never getting married or even co-habitating again.